Plan B, Pivots and Having an Army of Fairy Godmothers

Yesterday I spent a glorious day with a group of women who’ve been part of my brain trust for years. I’d say that the pandemic has kept us apart most of this year. Still, in reality, all of these women have a seat at the executive table at their respective companies and are involved in numerous other initiatives. On a typical day, they’re all ridiculously busy, and finding a day we can all hang out is frankly a miracle.

We covered dozens of topics during our day together, ranging from ageism in the workplace (then all the isms) to running marathons. With these women, no topic is off-limits, and curiosity is the driving intention. While several conversations were trips down memory lane, all of them eventually meandered to the future. Why? Because we are all actively ambitious for each other. 

What do you need?
What’s the next step?
Where are you heading?
Why do you need that?

These are just a sample of the questions we ask each other.

What’s also fascinating about these conversations and questions are the following unwritten “rules” that are also in place.

  1. You don’t have to know the answer, but responses are required. For example, “What do you need?” isn’t a request for a list of needs but an open-ended question to what you might need in your future.
  2. When someone has an answer, you don’t need to have a solution. Sometimes just giving someone space to talk through an idea is often enough.
  3. It’s about future shenanigans. Ears and brains are always on for the potential to do stuff in the future, preferably together.
  4. Everyone is an expert and a student. Epic confidence and humility walk side-by-side.
  5. While we’re all crushing it at Plan A (whatever we’re doing right now), we’re also looking towards Plan B. A focus on what we could all be tomorrow means we’re always growing, learning, pushing boundaries as individuals and together. We’ve all looked a personal pivot hard in the face and made it to the other side on our terms.
  6. All activities are better with Champagne and snacks. 

I know I’m a professional Fairy Godmother to many, but these women are MY Fairy Godmothers. And I’m guessing if I asked, they’d agree we’re Fairy Godmothers to each other. And yes, of course, magic shit happens.

So what does this have to do with you and personal pivots?

I think we all need an army of Fairy Godmothers as I do. Why? Because 2020 has been an endless pivot. A barrage of change, new rules, new expectations, and inconsistency. We’ve all, at some point, thrown our hands in the air and said, “Enough! I’m done.”

But done isn’t an option. Done isn’t what you want. You want something more for the Future You don’t you?

You can call this Plan B, or A Pivot, or Future You thinking; they’re all the same. All these ideas come back to the simple question, “What shenanigans do YOU want to get up to tomorrow?”

So if you want to know where to start, then I’d ask yourself that question. Plus, shenanigans are never alone. So who are your Fairy Godmothers/Godfathers? Who do you need to recruit into the potential of the Future You?

Who knows, maybe you could be a Fairy Godmother or Fairy Godfather too.