I was always charmed by the scene in Alice in Wonderland where the Mad Hatter brought up the idea of the Un-Birthday. A big fan of birthdays, both mine and others, I loved that every day could be a celebration for everyone. My sister and I have a running joke that birthdays mean cake, and any time there is a discussion about birthdays we yell, “CAKE!” Yes, like all siblings, we have our weird moments.
But enough about my relationships with my sister, I want to get back to the idea of un-birthdays. For this month it’s MY birthday. A real one, not an un-birthday. So before I get to my request – and it’s a good one – let me share a little of the idea.
Over the last year, I’ve been traveling around the globe standing in front of audiences large and small talking about how and why you need to be able to articulate why YOU are uniquely awesome. Much to the audience’s delight (and sometimes horror), I’m also known for plucking folks out of the audience and live-coaching them on stage. I take their usually dull answer to the question “What do you do?” and help them craft a better version. A version that, when we poll the audience, takes them from “a couple of people want to connect with you” to “pretty much the whole audience wants to get to know you.”
Most people express how amazing it is to watch the transformation. The revelation is soon followed by incredulous questions on how I’m able to perform this “magic trick” with no prior knowledge of the volunteer. How on earth can I create something that is unique, compelling and authentic for every kind of person, from a 14-year-old girl to a 1-Star General? It’s what I do, and I love it!
But here’s the secret: it’s what I get to see that’s the most fantastic part. The real magic is watching the volunteer’s face. Her expression, so close to me but so far from the audience that only I can see, goes from an “Oh my goodness, they’re going to judge me!” worried, vulnerable visage to an “Oh my goodness, I really AM awesome!” look of almost embarrassed pride and power. It’s truly my favorite part of the exercise. I’ve just told the room this lovely volunteer is awesome. Awesome in a way that is authentic and unique to that person. And because it’s her, honestly her, she believes me. She should; she is awesome.
But what happens at that moment is someone (me) believes in them. What I see each and every time is the power of being believed in. These brave, vulnerable and awesome people know that one person (me) believes in their awesome, and for a moment they believe in their awesome too. Their ladybadassery shines through. Not only ARE they awesome but now they CAN be.
That, folks, is magic.
This is where you come in. Can I help others believe in themselves the same way when I’m not at their side on stage? Can I spread some of the “Ladybadass Magic” around and impact more people’s lives?
Team ladybadass has been hard at work trying to figure that out. We think we’re on to something. Over the last two months, we’ve sent messages to an awesome group of people through various mediums. In our own quirky way, we’ve reminded people that inside each and every one of them is awesomeness.
So what on earth does this have to do with UnBirthdays and my request?
We want to expand the audience. To expand the number of people who might like to get a little #ladybadass magic in their life. We’d like you to give a little bit of me away for my birthday and give un-birthday presents.
This is a little hint of what the un-birthday present may look like:
Here’s how it will work….
- If you want to nominate someone(s) or even yourself, just give us their information. (Either fill out the form below or click here.)
- We’ll then reach out to them explaining you’ve nominated them and ask them if they want to participate. We’re not going to force anyone.
- We’ll let you know if they do.
- We start sending the messages to the people who have opted in.
It’s that simple.