Is success really just about getting sh*t done?

Scene: A room full of ladybadass, accomplished, curious women looking to up their professional game. A professional game that honestly is pretty rad already.

Me: Write down five things you want to be known for professionally.

Ladybadasses: [Frantically writing. Worrying that it’s not good enough.]

Me: How many of you wrote a version of “I’m really great at getting things done” as one of your top responses?

Room full of ladybadass women: 80% or more put their hand up. Every. Single. Time.

If you’ve been to one of my sessions, you’ll know that I then have a little chat with the audience about the importance of being unique. Particularly that while “getting shit done” is an important aspect of your job, being known primarily for “getting shit done” doesn’t help you or your team. (Want to know more about why come to a session!)

I was thinking the other day about this whole idea of “getting things done” and accomplishment, and it’s powerful hold as a tangible measure of success. Why do so many people consider “getting shit done” as a notable feature? Continue reading “Is success really just about getting sh*t done?”

When things aren’t so awesome

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It’s when you’re lying on the floor crying so hard that crap is coming out of your nose that interesting things start to happen.

This is the advice I give myself when things are going, well, not so awesome. Or at least I try to. I’m usually ignoring my own words of wisdom because I’m on the floor sobbing and feeling sorry for myself. But I get up, I always do. I pick up the pieces of whatever situation I’ve found myself in and get on with it. I’m a professional getter-upper.

So why am I telling you about my personal pity parties on the floor? It’s because of that interesting bit that happens afterward.

Usually, when I’m playing out my personal 3-year-old tantrum hammering my fists into the carpet, I’m also usually thinking, “Well damn. A new lesson about life I just learned.” Some lessons I’ve learned on the floor include:

  • Life sometimes isn’t fair and whining about it manifests nothing.
  • In a relationship with someone, professional or personal, you own half the relationship part of the relationship. Sometimes even more than half.
  • Sometimes a risky move doesn’t play out the way you wanted it to.
  • Sometimes playing it safe doesn’t play out the way you wanted it to.

And my personal favorite:

If you try to be someone you’re not, you will always end up on the floor.

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