The Awesomesauce Equation

Do you know what makes your people awesome?

I’ve talked at length about why it’s important to be able to articulate your particular awesome. Yes, you have one. Trust me on this. Just in case you’ve forgotten, here’s the high level. There are things you’re good at; it’s why you’re awesome.

  • You like doing the things you’re good at because it’s fun for you.
  • People should know what you’re good at; often they don’t.
  • People choose you because you’re good at what they need you to do.
  • You get to DO what you’re good at, so you’re happy.
  • The person who asked for your help/work gets the job done by a happy person.
  • Bottom line – everyone wins.

Simple right?

Value + delivered value = Everyone wins.

I know, it’s never that simple. That’s why, at this very moment, I’m sitting in an airport lounge about to hop on a LOOOONG flight to Singapore to chat with a room full of formidable folks about why they’re awesome. Continue reading “The Awesomesauce Equation”

You did good.

I don’t know about the rest of you, but I’m a bit overwhelmed with all the destruction so close to home. We’ve had four (or is it five now?) major hurricanes drowning or demolishing everything in their paths, another lunatic with a gun, and now friends who have lost their homes in the Northern California wildfires. Don’t get me started with #45. While I’m not suffering like those directly impacted by these horrific events, the hurt (and sometimes anger) I feel for them is forming a permanent crease in my brow. More importantly, I can feel the negative tenor of these events spilling over into my day to day life.

This angry, frustrated, sad, worried, overwhelmed, and powerless person is not who I am.

I strive to be the eternal optimist with a healthy dash of practicality.

I’m the person you sit next to when you have a kernel of a good idea because I’ll listen, cheer you on, and banish any self-doubt, so you can make something incredible happen. Better yet, I’ll help you make your idea into something even better than you thought it might be.

I’m the person who’ll hear what you’re trying to accomplish and identify someone in my network who might be able to manifest your dreams. (Y’all are awesome friends by the way.)

I’m the person who’ll pour a large glass of rose (or whatever your beverage of choice) and empathise with you about how your current project makes you feel lonely, exhilarated, like you’re not good enough, empowered, and any other dramatic word you can come up with.

Current events have been making is hard for me to be me. I decided to do something about it. I thought I’d share what I’m doing in case you were interested in joining in.

I’m spreading awesome wherever I can. Make someone else feel great about themselves. Make them feel like they matter, if only for a moment.

How on earth can you do that? Let me give you an example from the person who reminded me of this simple and powerful act.

I won’t go into the boring details, but I received an email back about a collaborative idea from a fellow Ladybadass, Sali Christeson. She chose the following words she used to open her email:

“Hi!!! Love this email so much,…”

I read it and was immediately in a good mood. Just a little sprinkle of kind words and the whole conversation went from the usual back and forth to include a smile. I felt great and that, in Sali’s world, I mattered.

It’s that simple. I was inspired.

So I asked myself, how can I manifest this little dash of awesome into someone else’s day?

Here are some ideas:

  • I emailed back someone who connected me, and the subject line of the email was: “You did a good thing.” In the body of the email, I went on to thank her and tell her why.
  • I signed off multiple emails today with the sincere words, “You Are Awesome.”
  • I texted a couple of friends an amusing .gif about their fabulousness with the words “just because” typed underneath.

You might be thinking I’m a bit self-congratulatory here. However, these little explosions of awesome are not about me. It’s about the other person. I expect nothing in return. But here’s the secret: It’s in the doing that I’m feeling better.

Spreading awesome to others is helping me deal with all that awfulness I keep seeing.

If you’re feeling the same way I am and want to do more, then find your way to spread happiness. You’ll find it is contagious and cathartic.

You did good.

Being Authentic: “The only thing you have to offer is you.”

The only thing you have to offer is you. … If it’s truthful to who you are and you’re concerned how people are going to react to it, stick up your middle finger and charge into that fire. You have to. If you’re trying to be a provocateur just to be a provocateur go f* yourself. That’s the bad stuff; it’s not real.

The quote was Darren Aronofsky’s response to the question on The Tim Ferriss Show: What advice would you give a filmmaker who doesn’t fit into the widget factory of movie making?

I pulled over my car to note the time on the podcast. I knew that I had to capture his words to include in this blog. His advice applies to you. It’s that important.

Your Human Value Proposition outlines why you matter, what you are known for. There are four things I listen for in your Human Value Proposition:

  1. Is it bold?
  2. Is it compelling?
  3. Is it unique?
  4. Is it authentic?

Aronofsky’s advice speaks clearly to the need authenticity, for being your real self. It also points out the real fear of being judged for that authenticity. Continue reading “Being Authentic: “The only thing you have to offer is you.””