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You’re always making investments

Let me start out by giving you some advice. Advice you’ve probably received before if you’ve been around me at all. I was reminded the bajillionth time this week alone that this advice is still warranted. I’m going to say it again and again and again until I can’t speak anymore.

You want to do better in life? Surround yourself with people who challenge your thinking. Ask questions about your beliefs and seek out other opinions. Be open to these views. If their comments don’t make sense, ask again.

Just ask.

That ask, in itself, is quite an investment. Let me explain … Continue reading “You’re always making investments”

How do you navigate?

Musings from the top of the bottom of the world

Let me just start by saying that my life can sometimes be a little different. How different? Well, what was expected to be a very low-key, traditional New Years ended up with 30 something hours of travel to Ushuaia, Argentina. I lugged my suitcase full of boat parts on a bit of a rescue mission for my husband Randall Reeves and his project the Figure 8 Voyage.

Ever one to turn a terrible situation into a good one, I found myself hiking in the Tierra del Fuego National Park on New Year’s day. I spent a good twenty minutes amusing myself for coming up with the sentence “We’re hiking to the top of the bottom of the world!”

Watch my video to view just one of the stunning panorama we found. (Ignore the huffing and puffing as we’d been hiking up and up and up …) Continue reading “How do you navigate?”

Finding Support on the Skinny Branches

A while back a friend of mine texted me, “I need a pep talk.” Less than 24 hours later, I was on her couch. I wasn’t there alone. A text from me to another of our tight, trusted, hilarious, brave, curious, Ladybadass group manifested another shoulder, supporter, nudger, question-er.

I won’t share what we talked about. Share, even with names redacted or changed, any of the information on why I had to hug someone more than three times (this is a big deal for me.) Why both the bottle of wine and the box of kleenex we emptied. That’s not the focus.

Today’s article is about how three strong, brave, professional women found each other.

Six years ago I was invited to be part of an experiment. An experiment that brought together twelve successful women to join forces in an effort to up our individual and collective game. We met monthly for the year with each other and with coaches.

The only rule: Show up.

One of the biggest lessons from this year of ass-kicking: I had no idea how lonely I was. Lonely for people who took similar professional steps that I took. Lonely for people who could see a future for me that was bigger and bolder than I could imagine. Continue reading “Finding Support on the Skinny Branches”

Would you like barbeque or a steak roll?

Adventures in A/B testing

I travel a ridiculous amount. As I write, I’m mid-flight from Charlotte, North Carolina to Miami, Florida. This is only the second of the four flights I’m taking to get to Ushuaia, Argentina. This is my life.

However, it’s the first leg of my journey that inspires this week’s article. To get to the airport, I decided to get a driver.

What my drivers never know when I tap the button on the app is I’ll want to chat with them (if they’ll let me) for the entire ride. I’ve found that rideshare drivers stories make for the most interesting conversations. Note that, to date, I’ve only had ONE driver tell me he wanted just to be a driver. They ALL have a dream, they all are using this side hustle as a means to an end. Continue reading “Would you like barbeque or a steak roll?”

Are you showing your work?

Do you remember that statement from school: “Show your work”? Let’s unpack that for a second now we’re not in 5th grade and navigating the school halls of life. Why do you think the teacher was asking the question? The teacher wanted to see that you understood the thought process and not just the right answer. New math, old math, it doesn’t matter; your teachers wanted to make sure you understood how to solve the fundamental problem so you’d always know how to find the solution.

This whole idea made wonder how old you are when teachers stop asking you to show your work?

In the workplace we are not asked to “show our work,” we’re expected just to complete it. At least that’s the expectation set when you’re in the early years of your career. I can almost hear the supervisor’s instructions:

  1. Here’s what we’d like you to do.
  2. Follow the process, and x result will manifest.
  3. We want lots of x.

Sure, I have simplified this a little, but if you took your work today and simplified it, would it break down into those three simple steps? Probably so.

This becomes a problem, however, the more senior you are in an organization. While your ability to make lots of “x” – better known as executing a plan or goal doesn’t go away – there is an expectation for you to be more strategic. Continue reading “Are you showing your work?”

Meet a Ladybadass: Jessica Shor – Mentor, Pragmatist, and Advocate

Over on our #ladybadass sister-site, we highlight many of the fearless, courageous, and inspiring ladies in business and in life around the world. We’re taking this idea a step further and finding out what it is that motivates and inspires these phenomenal women.

… and by the way, privacy is dead. Deal with it.

Overcoming challenges and hardships have set a blueprint of tenacity and grit for Jessica Shor from the earliest age: “Growing up without any means at all. Struggling with my mom being a single parent, not having any money, having to work a million jobs from the age of 12.” She realizes that the quest for  “financial stability and support is a pretty fundamental color in my life.” This adversity also motivates her passion for mentorship. “Most of what I do for myself and others with mentoring with WILPower and Hipower is aimed at ensuring all women have the ability to create their own financial freedom and independence, a sense of security.” Continue reading “Meet a Ladybadass: Jessica Shor – Mentor, Pragmatist, and Advocate”

Who’s making what decision in which room?

Part of the fun for me in putting ideas and questions out to this #ladybadass community are the conversations following. It’s rare for me not to get pulled into a discussion around a question I posed or a theory I’m developing. Once in a while, I ask people to share their ideas back with you. Share, because I want you to hear different thoughts and ideas. Share because I want you to meet the phenomenal people behind the conversations.

A couple of weeks back I posed the question, “Do you stay in a role longer than you should for the sake of the team?” This particular article garnered several conversations. One, in particular, caught my attention. A conversation I had with a dear friend and co-worker from a part of my life we’ll just call “Adventures in Chicago,” and I asked her to share.

So today, I introduce you to a total #ladybadass Cindy Barry and her thoughts about staying for the team…………..



Through the years I have encountered numerous managers who were nightmares. Having someone in your direct line of management, or a peer inside or outside your division can cause angst, negatively impact morale, and demotivate everyone around them. In the end, they are adversely impacting productivity, which means they are impacting revenue.

They are often the worst kept secret in the company, well known to Human Resources (HR). We can have an entire series of articles on theories as to how and why they are allowed to stay in place. Sadly, they are a reality with which we need to contend. Continue reading “Who’s making what decision in which room?”

Maybe the question is “what should you do?” not “what could you do?”

Recent news touts Mark Zuckerberg’s announcement that they’re changing the newsfeed algorithm to “.. focusing on helping you find relevant content to helping you have more meaningful social interactions,” a focus, they say, on the community. The New York Times in an interview last Thursday dug a little deeper. Zuckerberg was quoted, “It’s important to me that when Max and August grow up that they feel like what their father built was good for the world,”

You know what else I noticed? Facebook’s stock plummeted 5% overnight.

Imagine with me that you’re a new entrepreneur; an entrepreneur who’s raised capital for a company to grow and “change the world.” Investors expect a return. Imagine for a second you, like Zuckerberg, have decided that your product might be putting profit over people. Imagine for a second your product was a benefit to today’s consumer but could jeopardize their safety, security in the future. (Just watch any episode of Black Mirror , and you’ll understand what I’m talking about.) Because we are bumping up to a technical future where almost anything we want to build we probably can.

All this imagining raises the question: Is our adherence revenue and profit over mission and values point us towards a future we don’t intend? Continue reading “Maybe the question is “what should you do?” not “what could you do?””

Bespoke Bubbles

Lessons in Language and Individuality

Imagine for a moment that you’re invited to discuss with a small group of thought leaders the idea of narrative in the 21st Century. In the invitation informs you that you will give up an entire weekend, there is no agenda, and no other participants are known. The only thing you do know is that the host is this intriguing gentleman whom you’ve had some very thought-provoking conversations with before.

Would you say yes?

Of course, I said yes. Boy, I’m glad I did! Whom I met, what I learned, and my curiosity about what will manifest is still making me ponder almost a week later.

As the other 11 thinkers introduced themselves, I must admit that my IBSC (itty bitty shitty committee) screamed at the top of its lungs. These were people doing tremendous things on a massive scale. I can’t share the invite list, but let’s just say we had social activism, technology, military, politics, global economics, and environmentalism covered. And there I was with my platform of why people need to be able to articulate why they’re awesome.

I won’t go into a long diatribe about the ridiculousness of negative self-talk. We all know that conversation.

Once I got past myself, I listened, I absorbed, I learned. Continue reading “Bespoke Bubbles”

Just call me your fairy godmother

I want a wand.

I had the delightful experience of getting to speak to three different audiences recently. While we weren’t always talking about the human value proposition, the consistent message was about the need to be bold in our thinking to push us to new places. What I’ve found when I’m leading both groups and individuals, along with the “what could be” path, many are often stymied by one of the following:

  1. Fear – someone in the room might judge me.
  2. Fear – what if I fail.

I make it a point in each session to try and take the fear out of the room. I frequently use the statement: “Ok, I want you to pretend I’m your fairy godmother. Poof! I can now make ALL your dreams and wishes come true. There are no boundaries in the world you want to build. What do you see?”

I really want a wand when I do that. I think it might help the effect. Back to you and your wishes.  Continue reading “Just call me your fairy godmother”